Has your relationship ended up in a sexual desert? Perhaps the two of you went through a rough patch often occasioned by a health scare and stopped making love. Then — even though you never imagined a dry spell could become the prevailing climate — that desert began to seem too vast to cross. So how do you end the drought? First step to regaining physical intimacy with your partner? Making time to talk about it.
My wife believes it is normal to lose interest in sex post-menopause – but I disagree
Resurrecting Sex - Intimacy in Marriage, Relationships, Married Couples
By Michele Weiner-Davis. It places the marriage at risk of infidelity and of divorce. Another misconception is that sex-starved couples present their sex life as their primary issue when they come into couples therapy. In fact, more often than not, I ask about it in the first session. But when the higher-desire spouse is either directly or indirectly rejected sexually, he or she can shift rapidly into anger. It may be focused on the wet towel on the floor, or the beer in the den, or the tricycle left in the driveway. It usually pushes the other spouse even further away.
An Affair to Remember
For Sex Lives, GQ speaks with someone about their entire sex life up to this point. One of the earliest things I remember being turned on by was a Christina Aguilera music video. And we were all there for similar reasons, which was mostly that our parents were worried about us, so we just kind of found other people we connected with. This was before porn was available on our phones or anything.
Empty of tension. Devoid of spontaneity, or pleasure. We were in physical contact, yes. Sometimes, once every few months, we had sex. It was always the same, followed the same physical and emotional pattern, and happened only under very specific circumstances: I would be on my way somewhere else for a few days, or on my way back from somewhere, and this brief sense of unavailability, this brief moment of lack, would somehow motivate my husband to come to bed at the same time as me.