Welcome to "Ask a Sex Educator," a weekly series where renowned sex educator Lena Solow will be answering all of your questions about the tough stuff — sexuality, gender, bodies, STDs, pregnancy, consent, pleasure, and more. Is that true? Women often get judged for not being virgins, and men get judged for being virgins. And queer people are basically not being talked about at all! So then what IS helpful?
Whatever your reason for asking this question, we want to help you figure out the answer and maybe even help you make some decisions going forward. It seems like girls get judged for being a virgin and boys get judged for not being a virgin. Things like — are you in a safe relationship with someone who cares about you? Are you putting yourself at risk for sexually transmitted diseases STDs? So the better question may be — Do you think oral sex is safer than vaginal sex?